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Post by NoorSeeker on Aug 10, 2004 13:20:40 GMT
How does a brother go about finding a suitable wife who treads the path of Mohaddis-e-Azam InshAllah? Do we have are own version of 'Cilla Black' out there who arranges such things in a proper manner.
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Post by simnani on Aug 10, 2004 13:40:01 GMT
I dont think this is appropriate place brother.If you dont want to go via traditional route through your parents, then maybe seek a good Muslim internet service.
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Post by safia on Aug 11, 2004 12:04:20 GMT
You should really be discussing this with your parents or at least your relatives ! You wont find a good 'Ashrafi' wife on the internet !
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Post by NoorSeeker on Aug 11, 2004 13:26:17 GMT
Firstly - i protest at the moving of this thread - marriage is a vital "Islamic" topic and there is no shame in it - it is 50% of Deen accroding to our Master Muhammed SAW Secondly, I have spoken with my parents and other elders, and it is proving to be quite difficult. Thirdly, I am not suggesting any 'potential' get in contact with me - my question was is there anyone who may know of any potential to be approched through the proper means or is there anyone known for dealing with such matters, come one people - read the thread before jumping to conclusions! If I can approach Hazrat Shaykh ul Islam and Hazrat Arbi Miya with such a question then who are the rest of you to complain
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Post by Ghulam Mustufa on Aug 11, 2004 13:41:18 GMT
Dont worry Brother ! No-one will delete your message it is safe and more appropiate in this section thats all. I applaud you in your insistence in only choosing 'a mureed' or of that 'ilk' as your partner. Good luck and remember if your wife is to be found through this Messageboard pls remember us when you do your invitations !
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Post by NoorSeeker on Aug 12, 2004 13:11:41 GMT
InshAllah you're ALL invited!!! ;D
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Post by Jamil on Aug 13, 2004 12:22:28 GMT
The Book of Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah)
INTRODUCTION Marriage is a social institution as old as the human race itself. It may be defined as a relation between a man and a woman which is recognised by custom or law and involves certain rights and duties, both in the case of the parties entering the Union, and in case of the children born of it. Marriage has thus two main functions to perform: it is the means adopted by human society for regulating relations between the sexes; and it furnishes the mechanism by means of which the relations of a child to the community is determined.
The rites and ceremonies of marriage have been different with different peoples and in different ages. but these two functions mentioned above are common even where in marriage. It always implies the right of sexual intercourse as allowed and recognised by society and the duties of the parents in bringing up children.
Islam recognises this institution and accepts it as the basis of human society after purging it of all those evils which had penetrated it.
Firstly, Islam does not regard it as a union only for the gratification of sexual lost, but a social contract with wide and varied responsibilities and duties. The reason behind it is that, according to the Divine Faith, a woman is not a plaything in the hand of man. but a spiritual and moral being who is entrusted to him on the sacred pledge to which Allah is made a witness. The wife is, therefore, not meant. to provide sensuous pleasure only to the male, but to fully co-operate with him in making the life of the family and ultimately of the whole humanity significantly meaningful.
The Holy Qur'an has in so many verses pointed out the different purposes of marriage. It states:" And of His signs is that He has created wives for you from yourselves that you might find quiet of wind in them, and He put between you love and affection" (xxx. 21). In this verse it has been said that the female is not inferior to the male in the sense that the former is created out of a superior stuff while the latter comes of a base origin. Both man and woman are the progeny of Adam and thus both have the same soul. The purpose of marriage, according to the Holy Qur'an, is therefore, the union of the two souls which are one in essence. Their separate existence is an unnatural state of their being which changes Into the natural state when they are united by marriage and thus are brought close to each other physically, mentally and emotionally.
Both man and woman are the joint heirs of the grace of life, and unless there is a very close and intimate form of companionship in them, they cannot enjoy the true grace of life." He it is Who created you from a single soul, and of the same did He make his spouse, that he might find comfort in her" (vii. 189)." Comfort" implies much more than a mere sexual gratification. It is not too much to say that the whole conception of the marriage relation in Islam is charged with spiritual and moral ideas, and must of necessity elevate the status of matrimonial alliance in the individual and social life.
In Islam the union of the sexes has been purified and the joy of the married relation secured by the absolute prohibition of every kind of extra-matzimonial connection. The Holy Qur'an stresses upon the people to marry as it is the most effective means whereby one can lead a virtuous life free from immorality and emotional inhibition. The Holy Qur'an says:" They (your wives) are as a garment to you, and you are as a garment to them" (ii. 187). The mutual relation of husband and wife is here described in words which could not be surpassed in beauty. Herein is the correct description of the relationship between the two.
The husband and the wife are for mutual support, mutual comfort and mutual protection, fitting into each other as garments fit into each other.
Then the Holy Qur'an also makes it clear that this union is not a temporary relationship between two individuals of opposite sexes: It is a permanent and enduring relationship in the sense that both the parties should put in their earnest endeavours to lead their lives in perfect harmony and acquitting themselves creditably of the responsibilities saddled upon them by entering into this sacred contract.
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Post by zainab on Aug 18, 2004 17:23:53 GMT
Firstly - i protest at the moving of this thread - marriage is a vital "Islamic" topic and there is no shame in it - it is 50% of Deen accroding to our Master Muhammed SAW Secondly, I have spoken with my parents and other elders, and it is proving to be quite difficult. Thirdly, I am not suggesting any 'potential' get in contact with me - my question was is there anyone who may know of any potential to be approched through the proper means or is there anyone known for dealing with such matters, come one people - read the thread before jumping to conclusions! If I can approach Hazrat Shaykh ul Islam and Hazrat Arbi Miya with such a question then who are the rest of you to complain I, applaud you and pray you are successfull in finding a compatible life partner. That is the trouble these days, people jumping to conclusions.
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Post by NoorSeeker on Aug 19, 2004 13:07:34 GMT
Thanx for the support sister Zainab!! ... Now dont forget to keep me in mind for any potentials!! ;D
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Post by furqaan on Nov 6, 2004 10:53:02 GMT
I, applaud you and pray you are successfull in finding a compatible life partner. That is the trouble these days, people jumping to conclusions. Well done sister Zainab so true, people once again jumping to conclusions, after all it is an ashrafi board and his looking for an ashrafi partner (wife) where better but an ashrafi website. Maybe the parents can reply,!
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Post by Nazma on Nov 6, 2004 13:40:12 GMT
Assalamu Alaikum Read this thread yesterday and came across thsi website later on - www.singlemuslim.co.uk - hope it helps! P.S You should really be discussing this with your parents or at least your relatives ! You wont find a good 'Ashrafi' wife on the internet ! Why not may I ask??
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Post by Nudrat on Nov 6, 2004 14:22:26 GMT
Why not indeed! we have moved on, but not too much I hope it is still better to have parents intervening in delicate matters like marriage.
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Post by Nazma on Nov 6, 2004 16:13:21 GMT
very true, i think that you should always consult your parents about whatever step you wish to take, due to the fact that they only want the best for you.
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Post by Ashiq e Rasool on Nov 6, 2004 19:30:29 GMT
very true, i think that you should always consult your parents abotu whatever step you wish to take, due to the fact that they only want the best for you. Mashallah Im quoting you again wise words sister,
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Post by Muhammad Yakub on Nov 6, 2004 23:25:35 GMT
Have non of you read what he's said,
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Post by Ashiq e Rasool on Nov 7, 2004 13:31:41 GMT
Everything is written in your destiny!
When? Who? Only Allah (S.W.T.) knows.
Shaikh-ul-Islam, says;
" Uparwala, ko kabarhe, Insaan ko menat karne ki"
SO maybe its in his destiny, that he shall find a suitable partner on this website, after all he is doing alot of menat. InshaAllah! Hope you suceed in your quest! Ameen!
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Post by Faith on Nov 7, 2004 17:50:29 GMT
Do we have are own version of 'Cilla Black' out there who arranges such things in a proper manner. I know an asian version of "Cilla Black" "AUNTY JI" ;D lol.
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Post by star on Nov 7, 2004 18:11:06 GMT
salaams, just came across this thread and found it very interesting! i sympathise with you on how difficult it is finding a suitable wife in the UK, however i had heard that places abroad (i.e. India, Pakistan) have very good marriage bureaus. if my source is correct then you will be spoilt for choice of potential partners. there will be a que a mile long outside the village. hope ive helped
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Post by furqaan on Nov 11, 2004 16:41:44 GMT
salaams, just came across this thread and found it very interesting! i sympathise with you on how difficult it is finding a suitable wife in the UK, however i had heard that places abroad (i.e. India, Pakistan) have very good marriage bureaus. if my source is correct then you will be spoilt for choice of potential partners. there will be a que a mile long outside the village. hope ive helped He dos'nt want anyone from abroard!
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Post by mehboob on Jan 25, 2005 13:37:00 GMT
still Seeking...and of course you all still invited!
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