Post by guest on Apr 18, 2008 22:22:05 GMT
Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
I hope you are in good health dearest Imam Sahib.
I am not very well. I could not bring myself to post a question for everyone to read, so I hope you don't mind my personal post to you.
My mother died from last year. My father remarried very soon after. The person he married is his brothers - daughters - daughter. So she is his great niece. I have read about the different relations where marriage is haraam. But I cannot find anything about great nieces and great uncles. She can't be classed as his grand daughter.
Imam Sahib, I have no one who cares for me. Because may father remarried, my relatives have stopped speaking to me. People tell me the marriage is invalid and he is fornicating. Any children will be illegitimate.
I have only one brother and no sisters. My brother keeps telling me my father is living in sin. My brother has moved out with his wife. My bhabi contacts me by text or calls to remind me of what people are saying and how wrong my father is. Each time she contacts me I feel like I've been hit over the head by a hammer. I get a headache and feel faint.
I feel so isolated. My mother was everything to me. Suddenly she died, and now, as well as coping with this loneliness, I have people playing with my emotions. No one phones me or comes to see me anymore. If I visit anyone, I come away feeling more lonely, as I think about how other people have brothers and sisters who care for them, but I am alone.
My father occasionally calls me to shout at me about my brother. If I go to see him, all he does is shout and tells me I have turned my brother and everyone else against him. My father gave away all my mums best clothes and sold her gold without telling me. My mums original wedding gold was stolen before I was born. The gold she had when she died was bought with money she earned from a job, and some was given by me.
I would like to ask you if my fathers marriage is accepted in Islam? It was performed by an Imam with witnesses in our Muslim home country. Surely the Imam wouldn't make a mistake? - People say he did.
If it's not accepted, is it more sinful to separate? Back home, a divorced girl sometimes never remarries, so this girls life would be ruined.
Did my father have a right to sell and remove all my mothers belongings? I did tell him I wanted my mothers things.
I don't want to be my fathers enemy. I know one of the ways to Paradise is through pleasing ones parents. He keeps reminding me of how angry I make him, and how I'm responsible for everything.
I feel so low and confused. I am reading namaaz 5 times and reciting durood sharif, duas and reading the Quran Sharif. This certainly helps me, but then someone always brings me down again.
Please provide me with some advise. Or as a minimum, please tell me if my fathers marriage is acceptable? If not what is the next step?
Dear Imam Sahib, I thank you for taking the time to read about a few of my problems - I know you are very busy.
Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
I hope you are in good health dearest Imam Sahib.
I am not very well. I could not bring myself to post a question for everyone to read, so I hope you don't mind my personal post to you.
My mother died from last year. My father remarried very soon after. The person he married is his brothers - daughters - daughter. So she is his great niece. I have read about the different relations where marriage is haraam. But I cannot find anything about great nieces and great uncles. She can't be classed as his grand daughter.
Imam Sahib, I have no one who cares for me. Because may father remarried, my relatives have stopped speaking to me. People tell me the marriage is invalid and he is fornicating. Any children will be illegitimate.
I have only one brother and no sisters. My brother keeps telling me my father is living in sin. My brother has moved out with his wife. My bhabi contacts me by text or calls to remind me of what people are saying and how wrong my father is. Each time she contacts me I feel like I've been hit over the head by a hammer. I get a headache and feel faint.
I feel so isolated. My mother was everything to me. Suddenly she died, and now, as well as coping with this loneliness, I have people playing with my emotions. No one phones me or comes to see me anymore. If I visit anyone, I come away feeling more lonely, as I think about how other people have brothers and sisters who care for them, but I am alone.
My father occasionally calls me to shout at me about my brother. If I go to see him, all he does is shout and tells me I have turned my brother and everyone else against him. My father gave away all my mums best clothes and sold her gold without telling me. My mums original wedding gold was stolen before I was born. The gold she had when she died was bought with money she earned from a job, and some was given by me.
I would like to ask you if my fathers marriage is accepted in Islam? It was performed by an Imam with witnesses in our Muslim home country. Surely the Imam wouldn't make a mistake? - People say he did.
If it's not accepted, is it more sinful to separate? Back home, a divorced girl sometimes never remarries, so this girls life would be ruined.
Did my father have a right to sell and remove all my mothers belongings? I did tell him I wanted my mothers things.
I don't want to be my fathers enemy. I know one of the ways to Paradise is through pleasing ones parents. He keeps reminding me of how angry I make him, and how I'm responsible for everything.
I feel so low and confused. I am reading namaaz 5 times and reciting durood sharif, duas and reading the Quran Sharif. This certainly helps me, but then someone always brings me down again.
Please provide me with some advise. Or as a minimum, please tell me if my fathers marriage is acceptable? If not what is the next step?
Dear Imam Sahib, I thank you for taking the time to read about a few of my problems - I know you are very busy.
Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
