Marriage Issue b/w revert boy & aborn muslim girl

[princessboy08]

As'salam Wa'alaikum! May Allah shower mercy among all of you Ameen!

Em a boy who Alhamdullilah embraced Islam (alone in my family) a year ago keeping many things in mind! I am going to be 19 this May When I was seventeen, my life changed forever. I know that there are people who wonder about me when I say this. They look at me strangely as if trying to fathom what could have happened back then, though I seldom bother to make them explain. My story can't be summed up in two or three sentences; it can't be packaged into something neat and simple that people would immediately understand but I will keep it little. My story in some ways is their story because it was something that all of us lived through.

I loved a muslim girl and vice versa when I was a Hindu Boy. It was a long 3 years relationship, where I desired that one day some miracle will bond us together as a husband and wife and since then I realised this life is a challenge and I have to fulfill all of it in order to get her back in my life. I used to assumed that why cant a muslim and a hindu build home 2gether but now I realised the essence of fruition in Islam, Muslim should definately not unify with any Kufr's in terms of Marriage and I guess she did a right choice listening her parents, therefore she left me in dazed and to carry out the struggle to get her.

I dont know how cum I chose Alhamdullilah Islam as my relegion since then and now Alhamdullilah em learning Islam every ounce of micro second of my life and still there's a huge cosmo to learn and thus em very much happy. Now I realised that Allah is more than everything and beyond everything! My parents offcourse dont know abt my reversion and thus they'll never help me to acheive what I desire for so long. Yes, I desired madly for that lost love which helped me Alhamdullilah to embraced Islam. I want her back in my life no matter how much pain I have to face in this journey of mine.

From December 2007 she is not talking to me but Alhamdullilah I spoke to her this March 2008 and felt releif. I actually confessed her dad in december 2007 as she was nagging that she want to give up again and again so thought to confessed everything through phone to her dad and I did. Her dad took et kewl and kalled me to his town but I wasn't sure the outcome and his intension thus I didnt visit him. I came to know her dad bitted her this March as she told me and therefore she cant go for this relationship and from that time, we're not in touch Alas . I know she fear the evil side of her parents but today I am Muslim and she also know but there comes beleif, hw cum her parents can beleive a man who was once a kuf'r now Muslim. Her hometown is 150 KM away frm my home and she's in her hostel but i dont know where she's now. I know her address and her cousin with whom I speak everyday.

I want some solution in order to get her back in my life therefore I am struggling very hard in order to shine my fate both in wealth and Iman and I planned that after being eligible enough, I will finally go to meet her dad in order to tell her what I did and what I am Insh'Allah. I guess I got two more years because Muslims are generally get marry by 22, therefore I am doing something mammoth in order to nutrify my savings and Iman.

Advice me brother's and sister, what shall I do when I will go to meet her dad? What em gonna tell him about me, can u aware me of his reaction though he's a very cool person, also tell me what can he ask me generally and how shall I carry out everything alone. Why em asking you because em sure no1 will satiate me, not evn my family except my brother and sister-in-law but they are kuf'r and they know abt my reversion but still I wnt to embolden her family abt what is true and genuine, Our Love and My Iman, is really genuine and Allah knows all and Allah Subhanu'wa'taala knows Best, even Muhammed Umer Ibn'Al-Khattab (Rasool Allah) was a Kuf'r and he embraced Islam when his companion Prophet Muhammed Sal'alehi wa'sallam gave him the invitation and Allah PAK rewarded it so why not me ?

Please help me, should I go alone to meet her dad? I am ready to spend whatever I have in order to get her, Please help me ...
till date i have already thought that love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people's sins, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes

I have done Istikhaar'a through Tasbeeh (Rosary) and found Alhamdullilah that I should go for her! Time is running from my hand .... I want her in order to keep Islam in me, please help me and advice me how shall I impress her dad when I will go to meet him? Allah witnessed that em now totally Muslim and if i am saying anything wrong, may he curse me to loose everything what I desire Insh'Allah ...

Jazak'Allah Khair

Fe'Amanullah
Omar
New Delhi India

[Imam]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu


All Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the Worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Most Beloved, and Final Messenger of Islam, Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam

You must try and talk to the father of the girl that you love, or even have some form of relationship with him in order to attain the desire you require. Although this is not normal for a new Muslim to immediately fall in love with a Muslim girl, however, this is one solution.

Another solution is to per severe and to wait until she approaches you with a solution from herself, without the need of both of you in committing such sin which would otherwise prevent all this from happening.

Had you gained the relationship with the father that is normal, by seeing him first, and then by asking for her daughters hand, providing they both have agreed, then I dont see why there should be a problem. Have that in mind, and work between you and your friend in order to reach a perfect solution.

Based on the information you have provided me, this is what I have to advise.

I pray to Allah the Almighty that He keep the Ummah of the Beloved Messenger Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam away from committing such sin, which would be answerable in this world, and in the hereafter, and make du'a that He keeps us all united and true, by heart, action, and deed. (Amin).


Jazak'allah for your question.





Wallahu A'lamu Biththawaab


M. Waseem Ashrafi