Post by Jazak'Allah on Aug 2, 2008 4:51:16 GMT
Asalamualikum Maulvi Sahib,
I Hope you are doing well with the grace of Allah subhanu-Tallah. I am deep stress and I seek Allah's help and would like to have an opinion from the verses and Hadiths if possible.
If a brother's parents are forcing him to do something which is against his will in the sense of his marriage, what can be done? The actual picture is that his parents are wanting him not to marry this girl who is very religious and her parents are Mashallah religious too but his mother is forcing him to do things against his will. For example, she would not allow him to marry this girl without any reason and threatens to him that she would kill herself just so that her way could go around even if it is WRONG. She does not let her sons do what they want. I would understand if she said something best but she wants things done only her way even if they are wrong. Now, I want to know, if, lets say, the brother has already done a secret Nikah with the girl his mom wants him to leave, and later his parents do not agree even if THEY TRY SO MUCH. IS it allowed for him to leave his parents as they are stopping him to marry a religious girl who he has accepted as wife from his heart? Because as Allah is watching that he is being stopped from doing something that is nothing wrong with just because his mother is forcing him to go far from his happiness so that everything can be her way.
I am aware that in Islam, parents cannot force you to marry someone your heart does not accept. and Marriage in Islam is not by paper but by heart.
Is it true that if you accept someone by heart as husband or wife, they are accepted as husband and wife?
PLEASE HELP ME WITH THE BEST ANSWER POSSIBLE. THIS IS VERY URGENT AND WE DO NEED HELP WITH THIS. I would really appreciate it if you could answer this as soon as possible.
And, if he is allowed to leave his parents, what approach should he use in order to bring a proposal for that girl to her father in the near future? As for sure, her father will ask what about your parents or that how can i do this? Can the brother say that my parents have been forcing me to do something against my will and something Allah does not allow? and that I have my education and everything. What shall he do? Please help out.
With all of these questions, help us out please.
Jazak'Allah
Muslim Sister
Please relate the thread topic to your question, instead of ''very important and Urgent''! Please bear this in mind in future.
Ghulam Mustufa
I Hope you are doing well with the grace of Allah subhanu-Tallah. I am deep stress and I seek Allah's help and would like to have an opinion from the verses and Hadiths if possible.
If a brother's parents are forcing him to do something which is against his will in the sense of his marriage, what can be done? The actual picture is that his parents are wanting him not to marry this girl who is very religious and her parents are Mashallah religious too but his mother is forcing him to do things against his will. For example, she would not allow him to marry this girl without any reason and threatens to him that she would kill herself just so that her way could go around even if it is WRONG. She does not let her sons do what they want. I would understand if she said something best but she wants things done only her way even if they are wrong. Now, I want to know, if, lets say, the brother has already done a secret Nikah with the girl his mom wants him to leave, and later his parents do not agree even if THEY TRY SO MUCH. IS it allowed for him to leave his parents as they are stopping him to marry a religious girl who he has accepted as wife from his heart? Because as Allah is watching that he is being stopped from doing something that is nothing wrong with just because his mother is forcing him to go far from his happiness so that everything can be her way.
I am aware that in Islam, parents cannot force you to marry someone your heart does not accept. and Marriage in Islam is not by paper but by heart.
Is it true that if you accept someone by heart as husband or wife, they are accepted as husband and wife?
PLEASE HELP ME WITH THE BEST ANSWER POSSIBLE. THIS IS VERY URGENT AND WE DO NEED HELP WITH THIS. I would really appreciate it if you could answer this as soon as possible.
And, if he is allowed to leave his parents, what approach should he use in order to bring a proposal for that girl to her father in the near future? As for sure, her father will ask what about your parents or that how can i do this? Can the brother say that my parents have been forcing me to do something against my will and something Allah does not allow? and that I have my education and everything. What shall he do? Please help out.
With all of these questions, help us out please.
Jazak'Allah
Muslim Sister
Please relate the thread topic to your question, instead of ''very important and Urgent''! Please bear this in mind in future.
Ghulam Mustufa