Getting to know possible marriage partner

[madnibrother786]

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Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
ASALATU WASALAMU ALAYKA YA RASULLALLAH Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam

Salaam.

Coming up to the marriage age now.. I was just wondering that now-a-days alot of people be dating the girl/boy they want to marry. We all know that, that is wrong.

Now I know many people who even start to text or ring their potential marriage partner before marriage too... I think that is wrong too and is similar to dating, but then some people say that there is nothing wrong with it.

As we live in a time where people instead of fitting themselves into the shariah, they try to manipulate the shariah and fit that around themselves, therefore I have not been able to get a satisfactory answer from any people.

So I thought I should ask an alim-e-deen, therefore my question is that what are the Do's and Dont's before marriage. I personally think that we could have the female sat with her father or any other close relation (who she cannot marry), and then the girl and boy can talk and ask/inquire about what ever.

Please do shed some light on this topic with quran, hadith, and tariqah-e-buzrgaan-e-deen, as it is very confusing in this day and age.

Jazakallahu khayrun

I look forward to your reply.

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[Imam]

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All Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the Worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Most Beloved, and Final Messenger of Islam, Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam

Yes, in actual fact it is haram, to see one another without the parents consent. Just as you have quoted:

'I personally think that we could have the female sat with her father or any other close relation (who she cannot marry), and then the girl and boy can talk and ask/inquire about what ever.'

Normally it is for the parents to decide, and talk, as it is their right as to whom they should marry, and whom not, they should do the talking, and not yourselves. They are the ones who will choose the right person for you, and then it is your decision, whether you like her or not. That is all.





Jazak'allah for your question.





Wallahu A'lamu Biththawaab


M. Waseem Ashrafi