Post by jabeen on Nov 18, 2008 11:48:52 GMT
As Salaamu Alaikum
iam married for 10 years & blessed with a son & a daugther.
i have been married to my cousin (maulera bhai). this is an arranged marraige. my full name is jabeen taj & my mother name is mahamuda khanum. my husband name is nasrulla khan & his mother name is Gulnaz begum.
i lost my father at the age of 5 & my mother bought me & my elder sister with great difficulty. she gave us the good education & today we iam on my own feet & able to take care of my family.
as my mother is alone after my marraige i had to take dicison to stay with her even after my marraige. My inlaws too dint object on this at the time marraige. secondly i were a working lady & my hubby was altogether from a diff place.
after marraige he use to come & visit me once a week or so. his salary was less compared to mine, after marraige i had to give part of my salary to my inlaws. But my husband never used to give me anything, we were running our based with my salary & my mothers pension. even today after having 2 kids my husband is not at all responsible, whatever he earns he spends on himself & no clue where the entire salary goes. his parents always keep complaining that he spends everything on wife & gives nothing to the parents. Even if i bring to thier notice about the happening of day today activities they do not trust or believe me. whenever they come to my home i have to give them money for their travel fare, even though i will be in short of money i have to manage & give them everytime.
my married life is not at all happy, i always feel like being away from my husband, no idea why it happens. i just cannot enjoy with him. the moment i see him i'll get wild. to add on he also acts very cruelly. now he is staying with me & my mother. he always keeps fighting me if i speak with my elder sister & mother.
if i ask him to give some money for home to take care of kid or home he's start fighting & trethens me not to tell anything to my elder sister & brother in law, while arguing if my mother comes to convince him or me he'll get even more angry & start fighting & tell not to speak at all. as iam working, my mother only had to take care of my son & now daughter who is just 1 1/2 yrs old. he doesnt even have courtesy to thank her for taking care of our kids. he never give any respect. he also keep borrowing money from me to spend on himself. he lies a lot, he always lies. to hide one lie he will lie again & again. i'll keep on telling him not to lie becoz of this only we will not have barkat in our earning & at home. but its all for vain.
need your advise & suggestion to get rid of this routine things happening at our home everyday.
pls do advise me.
allah hafiz.
iam married for 10 years & blessed with a son & a daugther.
i have been married to my cousin (maulera bhai). this is an arranged marraige. my full name is jabeen taj & my mother name is mahamuda khanum. my husband name is nasrulla khan & his mother name is Gulnaz begum.
i lost my father at the age of 5 & my mother bought me & my elder sister with great difficulty. she gave us the good education & today we iam on my own feet & able to take care of my family.
as my mother is alone after my marraige i had to take dicison to stay with her even after my marraige. My inlaws too dint object on this at the time marraige. secondly i were a working lady & my hubby was altogether from a diff place.
after marraige he use to come & visit me once a week or so. his salary was less compared to mine, after marraige i had to give part of my salary to my inlaws. But my husband never used to give me anything, we were running our based with my salary & my mothers pension. even today after having 2 kids my husband is not at all responsible, whatever he earns he spends on himself & no clue where the entire salary goes. his parents always keep complaining that he spends everything on wife & gives nothing to the parents. Even if i bring to thier notice about the happening of day today activities they do not trust or believe me. whenever they come to my home i have to give them money for their travel fare, even though i will be in short of money i have to manage & give them everytime.
my married life is not at all happy, i always feel like being away from my husband, no idea why it happens. i just cannot enjoy with him. the moment i see him i'll get wild. to add on he also acts very cruelly. now he is staying with me & my mother. he always keeps fighting me if i speak with my elder sister & mother.
if i ask him to give some money for home to take care of kid or home he's start fighting & trethens me not to tell anything to my elder sister & brother in law, while arguing if my mother comes to convince him or me he'll get even more angry & start fighting & tell not to speak at all. as iam working, my mother only had to take care of my son & now daughter who is just 1 1/2 yrs old. he doesnt even have courtesy to thank her for taking care of our kids. he never give any respect. he also keep borrowing money from me to spend on himself. he lies a lot, he always lies. to hide one lie he will lie again & again. i'll keep on telling him not to lie becoz of this only we will not have barkat in our earning & at home. but its all for vain.
need your advise & suggestion to get rid of this routine things happening at our home everyday.
pls do advise me.
allah hafiz.
