Haarith
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Post by Haarith on Jan 1, 2010 21:32:40 GMT
Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem
ASALATU WASALAMU ALAYKA YA RASULLALLAH Salla Allahu 'alayhi wa Sallam Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa BarakatuhuOke, this one's for the parents. If I would be a parent I would be very uncomfortable thinking that when I leave my child alone in front of the computer that he or she might encounter or do things that are haram. Or when you find out that he or she behaves differently at school than at home. You have taught him or her certain behaviour and rules but when you're not around your child rejects all that because mum or dad is not around. Or the thought that he secretly has a boy-/girlfriend. Or secretly smokes with his friends. How do you parents cope with this? Because this is one of the reasons I'm scared to have children. Because you're responsible for you child, but what if you fail.  How do you check if your child behaves well when you're not around? Wassalamu 'alaykum
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Post by Sister Nomee on Jan 1, 2010 22:14:57 GMT
Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
ASALATU WASALAMU ALAYKA YA RASULLALLAH Salla Allahu 'alayhi wa Sallam Fear and concern for parents.  As a parent I have a good relationship with my son whom I have spoken to about his role as a Muslim and that any action he takes behind my back but he should fear Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala who is watching. When my son started secondary school I enquired about his friends whom he hanged out with, as often the wrong company can cause havoc/problems. As parent you do need to check how the child is progressing at school, attend regular parent evenings discuss with the form tutor any problems/concerns. By doing this the child will know that his parents will pick up on anything that he/she has done wrong. An advantage I do have some family friends are teachers at my sons school  Parents and children should have a relationship based upon trust, too much strictness is not healthy often results in children rebelling and going against the parents wishes. I can pray that all children stay on the straight path of Islam and make their parents proud of them ameen. Wasalaam
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Post by Sag E Dargah E Jilani on Jan 1, 2010 22:27:22 GMT
Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa BarakatuhuI think that the child should also have some AQAL. The most parents can do is teach the children what is right and wrong. However saying that in society you can see some parents whom are great people and there children have gone astray.  Allah Azawajul and his Rasool knows the best. As for the internet a simple parents control can be put be put into action. Thats what my brother uses  . It records every website you have been and how long you visited it for. I am sure every child would be scared to go on such websites if they know if there elders will find out. Bloody hell!!! The shame would kill!!!  Jazakallah Khayran Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
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Haarith
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Post by Haarith on Jan 1, 2010 22:43:37 GMT
Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa BarakatuhuI think that the child should also have some AQAL. The most parents can do is teach the children what is right and wrong. However saying that in society you can see some parents whom are great people and there children have gone astray. Allah Azawajul and his Rasool knows the best. As for the internet a simple parents control can be put be put into action. Thats what my brother uses . It records every website you have been and how long you visited it for. I am sure every child would be scared to go on such websites if they know if there elders will find out. XXXXX hell!!! The shame would kill!!! Jazakallah Khayran Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu So young, so wise. Are you sure you're a youngster? ;D And mind the language please. Wassalamu 'alaykum |
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Post by Sag E Dargah E Jilani on Jan 1, 2010 22:46:29 GMT
Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa BarakatuhuI think that the child should also have some AQAL. The most parents can do is teach the children what is right and wrong. However saying that in society you can see some parents whom are great people and there children have gone astray. Allah Azawajul and his Rasool knows the best. As for the internet a simple parents control can be put be put into action. Thats what my brother uses . It records every website you have been and how long you visited it for. I am sure every child would be scared to go on such websites if they know if there elders will find out. XXXXX hell!!! The shame would kill!!! Jazakallah Khayran Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu So young, so wise. Are you sure you're a youngster? ;D And mind the language please. Wassalamu 'alaykum It can therefore be deduced that I am not wise as I never even knew that, the phrase was a swear  Well thanks for telling me. Jazakallah Khayran Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu |
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Post by Haarith on Jan 1, 2010 22:49:06 GMT
Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
ASALATU WASALAMU ALAYKA YA RASULLALLAH Salla Allahu 'alayhi wa Sallam Fear and concern for parents. As a parent I have a good relationship with my son whom I have spoken to about his role as a Muslim and that any action he takes behind my back but he should fear Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala who is watching. When my son started secondary school I enquired about his friends whom he hanged out with, as often the wrong company can cause havoc/problems. As parent you do need to check how the child is progressing at school, attend regular parent evenings discuss with the form tutor any problems/concerns. By doing this the child will know that his parents will pick up on anything that he/she has done wrong. An advantage I do have some family friends are teachers at my sons school Parents and children should have a relationship based upon trust, too much strictness is not healthy often results in children rebelling and going against the parents wishes. I can pray that all children stay on the straight path of Islam and make their parents proud of them ameen. Wasalaam Oke yes, makes sense. Wassalamu 'alaykum |
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Post by Haarith on Jan 1, 2010 22:53:50 GMT
It can therefore be deduced that I am not wise as I never even knew that, the phrase was a swear Well thanks for telling me. Jazakallah Khayran Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa BarakatuhuIt implied that you're mature in you're thinking.  (About the phrase, I thought it's a swear. But you got me thinking, English is not my primary language. It doesn't sound gentle though). Wassalamu 'alaykum |
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Post by qazirehan on Mar 26, 2011 19:06:56 GMT
Asalam a Alaikum,
If the base of the children makes good with moral values and ethics then in future they will be always be in there limits..
W/salam
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Allah Azawajul and his Rasool knows the best. 
. It records every website you have been and how long you visited it for. I am sure every child would be scared to go on such websites if they know if there elders will find out. Bloody hell!!! The shame would kill!!!
