Becoming a mureed

[aniqa]

Assalamu Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

I'm new on here and it's my first ever thread so please don't be too harsh on me if its posted incorrectly.

I've noticed most people have a peer sahab, on here. Until recently I never gave it much thought, so I haven't got one yet ((and it's also a subject which I've never discussed before so please excuse any incorrect terminology etc))

Having watched a lot of Madni Channel recently, I'm now considering it but have a few questions if anyone could help me out.

Firstly, am I right in thinking your peer sahab is in other words your teacher? Because Ameer e ahlesunnat was saying the other day, that your peer guides you if your on the wrong path.

If so, then how does it work with women?

And how to you decide the peer that you wish to become a murshid of?

And I've also heard that a woman cannot become a murshid without her husband's consent?

Jazak Allah





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[aniqa]

Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

Just realised when i said murshid, above i meant mureed....well at least thats what i think i meant...the follower of a peer




















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[Bint e Attar]

Mar 2, 2011 15:42:31 GMT aniqa said:

Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

Just realised when i said murshid, above i meant mureed....well at least thats what i think i meant...the follower of a peer

Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu


Yeah ur right.. ur pir will be ur murshid and u will be their mureed.. and they will be ur spiritual teacher/guide..

If so, then how does it work with women

I'm also their Mureed.. and it works same way as it works for males.. fx they have alot of books and vcd etc.. from which we can learn from..

U wont be able to meet them in real life.. bc they are very strict on that point.. but u may meet them in ur dreams.. InshaAllah Azwajal..

And I've also heard that a woman cannot become a mureed without her husband's consent?

Nope u dont need his permission to become a mureed...

Hmm if u like u can do Istikhara before choosing ur pir o murshid.. bc if u become a mureed then u have to stick with them no matter what.. i.e u cant change ur murshid if in future u find some one else who seems much better then ur own pir o murshid etc.. bc thats the worse thing u can do is to change ur pir o murshid for no good reason.. its like a person cant have 2 fathers the same way one cant have 2 pir o murshids..


for more info on Murshid/Mureed and tasawwuf u can have a look at this link.. www.spiritualfoundation.net/

• Need for a Guide
  
• Shaykh & Mureed
  
• Conduct of the Mureed

etc..





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[Naqshbandi]

Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

Salam sister, initially having read just the title, I thought you was going to give me some advice on becoming a murshid hence I came to read. ;D

Anyways as for choosing a peer. It is vital that you dont rush it. Remember the peer will be your guide for the rest of your life. However on the other hand it is also important to have one, and not to travel the sufi paths alone as without one satan may find it alot easier to mislead you hence in india pakistan we have the old folks saying as "bay peera satan ka mureed hai" (Not to be taken literally like some people do). But just means that if you travel the sufi paths without a shaykh then it is easier for the satan to misguide you.

When you are with a shaykh it is like a barricade for satan. The ulema tend to give an example as a rope if you tie many ropes together then they are all intact see yourself at the bottom (when you do bayat) and then above ur peers rope and then leading all the way to the Prophet Salla Allahu 'alayhi wa Sallam.

Then imagine one rope not tied it is easy for the wind to blow it away, so that is the same way when you do bayat you are intact with the rope of your shaykh and so on and so forth.

I would say that choosing a peer can be very tricky in this day and age and it would be very good to do istekhara (very short action involving a short prayer salah and a short dua before you sleep at night for a few nights.) And also would recommend you keeping the book of Sayyidina Data Ali Hajweri Rahmatullahi 'alayh's called "Kahshful Mahjoob" with you more often then not.
As it is said in regards to that book that those who keep this book with them and are in need of a guide then Sayyedina Data Ali Hajweri rehmatullahi alay will guide them and even come in their dream and show them a great wali of their time.

And a final point. I personally believe it is not unwise to give preference to choosing a sayyad peer (one who is from the blessed family of the prophet salla allahu alayhi wasalam). However there are also Peers who arent sayyad and still very highly ranked and highly respected peers too.

May Allah ta'ala help you in your search and he is our one and only guide.

(Sorry for writing an essay, havent been on since a while, thought Id make up for what Ive missed )
Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu





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[Saalik]

Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu



You can have some related infos here too:


www.shaykhalislam.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=164:reality-of-bayah&catid=66:the-bayah&Itemid=87

[attariuk]

Wassalam,

it is a matter of great importance to decide who you choose as your peer/murshid. It took me quiet a long time before deciding on my murshid. (5 years approx).

there are couple of things you can do to help you with your decision.

1) you can do istikhara about it
2) ask someone who is already a mureed of hazrat sahib and see if this is what you are looking for.
3) read about hazrat sahib's life and dawateislami's work. this might tell you more about what they do and how they increase spirtuality amongst their mureeds

please do not ever do this;
compare a peer with another one. because every peer works differently and you can never compare them easily.

at the end its your own choice.

fi imaan allah