Post by muslim94 on Dec 2, 2012 17:03:48 GMT
function (){_AF$.drBox.pPP()}function (){_AF$.drBox.pPP()}function (){_AF$.drBox.pPP()}I am an 18 years old boy and i liked a girl 2 years back.My pure intentions were and are to marry her. She returned the interest but there are some issues in her family her father abandoned her mother when that girl was an infant and she is their only child. He married a widow who already had kids ! Her mother is her guardian since then. Now he returned after 17 years and rarely full fill her basic needs they seldom meet and her mother also got divorced!I talked to her mother regarding our marriage and asked for some time but she wont agree and keeps on planning her wedding at various places I cant afford to loose her so we decided on nikah! Sir my and her intentions are pure plus there is no concept of love before marriage in Islam I wanted her to be my bride so can I fight for for my wife. I cant disclose this to my family unless I am settled and nor can she because her mother wont keep her I just need some years to get settled! Plus I wanted my relation to be pure and not a sinful one so I asked many scholarly people and a Qari through a friend that are 2 witness enough for Nikah and i was told yes. We didn't took this step unless we confirmed it from as much resources we could. I asked many people and i was given the same answer. So in front of my 2 Baligh friends 2 years back i said that i take her as wife and she said she took me as husband. Trust me sir I do respect for her as my wife and take care of her financial needs as much as my pocket allows. So are we husband and wife now. I need serious replies please because i have been physical with her.
I had no intention of doing Zina in fact I wanted both of us save from that unforgivable deed this is also the reason of performing nikah, but i am very tensed now that I heard that Wali and Kazi are required as an obligation.
I didn't know this earlier. What should i do now?
I only did this Nikah to save myself and her from sins we didn't saw each other since I got to know about this doubt but I take her as my wife and love her as one there are needs we cant control as i said that I take her as my wife! Please help me I know there will be a way as ALLA SUBHANA WA TAALA is Raheem please I cant stand this that are nikah isnt jaez I cant live without her. I cant disclose this to my family untell i get settled in a few years time INSHAHALLAH ill bring her home but I want her to stay my wife till than I will INSHAHALLAH fullfill her needs as much as I am able to untill than and after bringing her home to. Help me
I had no intention of doing Zina in fact I wanted both of us save from that unforgivable deed this is also the reason of performing nikah, but i am very tensed now that I heard that Wali and Kazi are required as an obligation.
I didn't know this earlier. What should i do now?
I only did this Nikah to save myself and her from sins we didn't saw each other since I got to know about this doubt but I take her as my wife and love her as one there are needs we cant control as i said that I take her as my wife! Please help me I know there will be a way as ALLA SUBHANA WA TAALA is Raheem please I cant stand this that are nikah isnt jaez I cant live without her. I cant disclose this to my family untell i get settled in a few years time INSHAHALLAH ill bring her home but I want her to stay my wife till than I will INSHAHALLAH fullfill her needs as much as I am able to untill than and after bringing her home to. Help me
Ki Nighabani Mein!