Post by Hasinah on Nov 9, 2005 21:31:26 GMT
Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
I was just very very carious on what one should do...
Anger is very high in the family. one second everyone will be happy , and the next, its horrible...the most unusual reasons effect our daily life. It feels as if Allah (the almighty) might be unhappy with my family, as for it feel like he hasnt blossomed his rehmat upon us... (May Allah have mercy on us). All this is pretty much a daily routine the anger, and madness that comes up. But one thing is really bugging me...my sister....
Shes older than I, about by 4yrs. I do everything in mind to keep her happy, since she gets aggrivated really quick, and quite tempered which scares me at times. But out of no where she will get extremely mad and upset, and yea I know when one is angered he is blind and such, but well heres an example...today at school as she is checking her email she is deleting history on the side, I questioned her why are u doing such, no one is going to go threw ur stuff, she said its my business , so i told her im not interfering with ur bizz do what u got to do...and she gave me 1/2 a second worth of a laughter... So i walked outside the library waiting for her to get done with her "business" she came outside of the library and walked passed me and kept walking (although our next class in 1hr was together)..quite angered I read the Kalma...and felt like crying, because I'm always trying to please her and she gets upset too quick. Ok anyway i got her food and placed it on her desk, (since i got to class b4 she did) she came and placed it back on mine. So i didnt say anything....after class we go home together, she called our ride, and walked towards where we get picked up. By the time I reached there ( i was slow and behind, in tears) she was gone, and so was our ride.... and here I am sitting in the library asking for u to give me guidance. What should I do?
Is there a surat, or dua I should read, something I can to pray for her to stay calm? or for me to gain strenght, is there a passage in the qur'an or a hadith that I can email her, so she can read it and reflect upon her doings, or if im at fault please do refer me to dua's and such.
Thanks...
I was just very very carious on what one should do...
Anger is very high in the family. one second everyone will be happy , and the next, its horrible...the most unusual reasons effect our daily life. It feels as if Allah (the almighty) might be unhappy with my family, as for it feel like he hasnt blossomed his rehmat upon us... (May Allah have mercy on us). All this is pretty much a daily routine the anger, and madness that comes up. But one thing is really bugging me...my sister....
Shes older than I, about by 4yrs. I do everything in mind to keep her happy, since she gets aggrivated really quick, and quite tempered which scares me at times. But out of no where she will get extremely mad and upset, and yea I know when one is angered he is blind and such, but well heres an example...today at school as she is checking her email she is deleting history on the side, I questioned her why are u doing such, no one is going to go threw ur stuff, she said its my business , so i told her im not interfering with ur bizz do what u got to do...and she gave me 1/2 a second worth of a laughter... So i walked outside the library waiting for her to get done with her "business" she came outside of the library and walked passed me and kept walking (although our next class in 1hr was together)..quite angered I read the Kalma...and felt like crying, because I'm always trying to please her and she gets upset too quick. Ok anyway i got her food and placed it on her desk, (since i got to class b4 she did) she came and placed it back on mine. So i didnt say anything....after class we go home together, she called our ride, and walked towards where we get picked up. By the time I reached there ( i was slow and behind, in tears) she was gone, and so was our ride.... and here I am sitting in the library asking for u to give me guidance. What should I do?
Is there a surat, or dua I should read, something I can to pray for her to stay calm? or for me to gain strenght, is there a passage in the qur'an or a hadith that I can email her, so she can read it and reflect upon her doings, or if im at fault please do refer me to dua's and such.
Thanks...