Calling the husband by his name?

[Sister Nomee]

Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

There is a dicussion on the board about Muslim women calling their husbands by their names. I personally could not find a clear answer so I was wondering if you could clarify this discussion for us as we do have sisters on the forum who call their husbands by name and they do not want to be doing anything that is wrong

Jazakallah

Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

[Imam]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu



All Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the Worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Most Beloved, and Final Messenger of Islam, Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam


Jazak'allah for your question. Although it is not normal for our parents from the sub-continent especially our mothers, to call our father, by his name. I think it involves esteem, respect, and etiquette.


We may not see this happening in the west, as some of those 'norms' have not been practiced here, and certainly, they have not been taught to us, although they may have been mentioned to us.


Although there is nothing in the Qur'an al kareem to say that you cant call your husband by his name, nor in the hadith, however, you do not see Allah the Almighty addressing the Most Beloved Messenger of Allah Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam as ''Ya Muhammad'' Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam, but instead, it is titles like Ya ayyuhal Muzzammilu, Ya ayyuhal Muddasiru, and Ya Sin and so forth.


If the Almighty had so much esteem for His Most Beloved Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam, then how is it that we should address our own 'beloved' in any other manner different to His? Do we not learn something from such titles? Do we normally call our elders, regardless of whether they are our husbands, by their names? Indeed there is a lesson to be learnt.


A womans position in relation to the man was that if she would have been asked to prostrate to anything it would have been the husband, but since it is shirk to prostrate to anything other than Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, it is now forbidden, then do we not learn what status man has within his family? And what kind of esteem, respect, and etiquette the man should have, which the woman should pride for?


May Allah the Almighty help us to respect our parents, the elderly, and those who teach and provide for us, and may He keep us away from the mischiefs of the modern day. (Amin)


Wallahu A'lamu Biththawaab



M. Waseem Ashrafi