Post by nabs on Jan 17, 2008 11:37:08 GMT
Salaam Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem
I hope youe well imam sahib. Ameen
Please imam i wanted to ask if there is something that can be done to chnage my family environment. My family is not pracitising islam and prefer culture, my dad is quite strict sometimes with the girls and refuses to speak to my sisters if they dont marry with his choice from our caste.
One of my sister he doesnt speak to, and has not been speaking to her for over 2 years becuase she doesnt want to live with her ex-husabd, she was married to him for 10 years and they never shared the same bedroom because she was balckmailed into the marriage, now she got a divorce, but my father and mother dont accept it ans she still lives with her ex, but she doesnt know wat to do as my mother is very ill and doesnt want to cause anything bad to happen.
she wants to also marry a really respectable man from another caste as he is like her i.e. religious etc, but becuase my parents wont accept the divorce, she cant marry him and even if she wanted to my parents wouldnt agree, please tell me as this really upsets me and my sister is practising and her life is going to waste and my parents turn a blind eye to it.
And my other sister she wants to get married to someone she knows but my parents wants her to be in the caste,i know that this has got nothing to do with religion. My brother got married to a girl from pakistan and they dont get on as he is always out of the house, and we have big arguements. the only person who prays in the house in my sister who got the divorce, and she has been praying so many things i.e. wazifahs, gone to so many shaykhs even out of the country for help ease the sistuation in our home, but now she is feeling so depressed and all of us are becuase my parents think too much about pleasing their relatives and stop talking to their own children.
We are so sad and my sister who is divorced likes to make everyone happy by telling them islamic things, but NOBODY listens and she pretends to be happy when i know that she is really depressed coz one day i went to stay at her house and stayed in the attic and i heard her cry from early morning in the evening and then she pretended it wasnt her when i told her i heard her, but i know she is depressed thats why am telling you this.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE make dua for my family too and tell us what we can do to chnage our lives into better lives where everyone can get on and accept each other lives and choices.
I want my sister to marry that man becoz he gives her lots of islamic things and speaks about islam, and they are both very very intelligent, and my sister is very beautiful as alot of men who know about her situation want to marry her, and none of us in the family are as clever as her, but she is leading a miserable life and she is nearly in her 30's i think, but my parents are selfish.
I am quite young as well but i just get sad when i see that after my sister has been praying for so many years nothing good has happened apart from when she went to the shariah and even then they ignored her and said that she was killing them and the family.
Please imam sahib can you please advise us, please advise us, please advise us, please please please. I want to concentrate at school but i cant when i come home its not a nice feeling, its awful and its just like they are existing rather than living.
I know Allah tests us all, and my sister tells me coz she knows alot of things, but when will there be relief, she also reads many wazifah's from her shaykh, but my parents hearts have not changed.
Please advise for changing their hearts, please advise for their hearts to change and for my other brothers and sisters to have good lives.
thanks you so much imam, thank you again.
Nabs
I hope youe well imam sahib. Ameen
Please imam i wanted to ask if there is something that can be done to chnage my family environment. My family is not pracitising islam and prefer culture, my dad is quite strict sometimes with the girls and refuses to speak to my sisters if they dont marry with his choice from our caste.
One of my sister he doesnt speak to, and has not been speaking to her for over 2 years becuase she doesnt want to live with her ex-husabd, she was married to him for 10 years and they never shared the same bedroom because she was balckmailed into the marriage, now she got a divorce, but my father and mother dont accept it ans she still lives with her ex, but she doesnt know wat to do as my mother is very ill and doesnt want to cause anything bad to happen.
she wants to also marry a really respectable man from another caste as he is like her i.e. religious etc, but becuase my parents wont accept the divorce, she cant marry him and even if she wanted to my parents wouldnt agree, please tell me as this really upsets me and my sister is practising and her life is going to waste and my parents turn a blind eye to it.
And my other sister she wants to get married to someone she knows but my parents wants her to be in the caste,i know that this has got nothing to do with religion. My brother got married to a girl from pakistan and they dont get on as he is always out of the house, and we have big arguements. the only person who prays in the house in my sister who got the divorce, and she has been praying so many things i.e. wazifahs, gone to so many shaykhs even out of the country for help ease the sistuation in our home, but now she is feeling so depressed and all of us are becuase my parents think too much about pleasing their relatives and stop talking to their own children.
We are so sad and my sister who is divorced likes to make everyone happy by telling them islamic things, but NOBODY listens and she pretends to be happy when i know that she is really depressed coz one day i went to stay at her house and stayed in the attic and i heard her cry from early morning in the evening and then she pretended it wasnt her when i told her i heard her, but i know she is depressed thats why am telling you this.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE make dua for my family too and tell us what we can do to chnage our lives into better lives where everyone can get on and accept each other lives and choices.
I want my sister to marry that man becoz he gives her lots of islamic things and speaks about islam, and they are both very very intelligent, and my sister is very beautiful as alot of men who know about her situation want to marry her, and none of us in the family are as clever as her, but she is leading a miserable life and she is nearly in her 30's i think, but my parents are selfish.
I am quite young as well but i just get sad when i see that after my sister has been praying for so many years nothing good has happened apart from when she went to the shariah and even then they ignored her and said that she was killing them and the family.
Please imam sahib can you please advise us, please advise us, please advise us, please please please. I want to concentrate at school but i cant when i come home its not a nice feeling, its awful and its just like they are existing rather than living.
I know Allah tests us all, and my sister tells me coz she knows alot of things, but when will there be relief, she also reads many wazifah's from her shaykh, but my parents hearts have not changed.
Please advise for changing their hearts, please advise for their hearts to change and for my other brothers and sisters to have good lives.
thanks you so much imam, thank you again.
Nabs