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Post by Muslimah on Apr 25, 2005 13:00:19 GMT
asalamo-alaikum,
I wanted to ask how far should a wife go in pleasing her husband in providing different types of food and dishes. Does the husband have a right to expect new dishes and ingredients on a weekly basis.
Your earliest reply is much appreciated.
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Post by Imam on Apr 26, 2005 14:49:51 GMT
BISMILLAHIR RAHMANIR RAHEEM Assalaamu 'Alaykum, A true and sincere wife, should go as far as she can in pleasing her husband, ''hunnaa libaasul lakum wa antum libaasul lahunnaa'' - they are a clothing for you, and you a clothing for they. Allah the Almighty has emphasized the importance of a wife/husband's relationship by using the term ‘clothing’, without which a person would feel cold, naked and embarrassed. As far as food is concerned, then if the husband can’t cook, and the wife can, she should enjoy doing the cooking especially if everything is being provided by the husband. However if the wife cant and the husband can, then there is nothing wrong with him cooking. The main thing is to have a halal sustenance, provided by halal money leaving no room for any haram. Then everything you do will carry reward. As far as the sufiiyya’ are concerned, then eating less and sleeping less and talking less is a good merit. This now leaves the question of whether the husband has the right to expect … Then if the woman is a pious woman, who regularly fasts, spends time in worship (‘ibaadah), looks after the children, then it wouldn’t seem appropriate for her to cook the food for her husband, at his demand, in this state. Alternatively if the man is pious, and does all the above actions, alongwith or without his wife then, it would seem appropriate for the woman to cook, as not only will the husband be gaining reward for his actions but the wife will also. May Allah the Almighty keep all Muslims observant of such ideals, and may he keep us away from any likely destruction … Wallaaho a’lamo bithawaab. M.Waseem Ashrafi |
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