Post by akhan70 on Feb 21, 2008 16:12:21 GMT
Before my marriage, i dated a guy. i told my husband about it before we got married just so he would know from me and not find out later but i did not tell him the details as i had already repented to Allah and didn't think i should disclose it further. He also dated another girl and a physical relationship but i forgave him. now after we are married for almost 2 yrs, he has been pressuring me to tell him the details of my relationship. I had always followed the path of islam since a young age but when my mother passed away from illness, i became very hostile and rebellious. i did not commit adultery or even came close but i still had an inappropriate relationship for which i feel guilty and repent for everyday. my husband brings it up all the time and asked me to swear on the quran on every incident that took place. I was afraid of telling him the truth about everything as i thought it would have a bad impact on my marriage so i lied about a few things. later that night he had a horrible dream about me. when he told me about it, i felt it was a sign from Allah that i should tell him the truth. so i did. Later he still did not believe me and asked me to repeat everything again and swear that if i ever had a child, it would be born dead or challenged if i lied. although i tried to tell the truth, i may have been inaccurate about somethings as i did not remember. I worry that this topic will never end and regardless of me being a good wife to him and being religious and repenting for my evil deeds. i don't know what i should do or say to prevent this from ruining my life as nothing i do will convince him to stop doing this to me. i love him very much and don't want a divorce but sometimes i think that it might be better for us bc i can't deal with the issue any longer. he reminds me of my wrong doing at every opportunity and makes me feel used and dirty and tells me that i am a disgrace to my family. please advise on what i should do or if there are verses in the quran that i can show him to explain that he should no longer be questioning my past as it should only be a matter between me and allah swt. what is the consequence of me lieing on the quran and what should i do to be forgiven for it? please respond as i am very stressed about the matter.