Post by pakigurl on Jan 12, 2006 1:58:39 GMT
Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
I urgently need your help on this matter. I am a memon girl who is interested in an urdu-speaking guy. We are both 21 years old and want to get married as soon as possible. I know by reading the age, everyone will think, "that's too young"...right? Well, thats understandable, but we're both ready to get married and the thing is, my mom knows about him and is hoping that i get hooked up somewhere else. He has talked to his family about me and Inshallah they are planning to propose within this month. I told my mom about this but she said they wont say yes because he's not memon and he's young and hasnt finished his studies yet. I dont believe any of these things are important in an Islamic point of view...right? He's Mashallah a good guy, has a good job, and a great family Alhamdulillah. At the moment he is unable to do his studies because he is the one taking care of his whole family, and all the payments of the house, as they have jus recently shifted to the US. His family is ready to accept me into their family...but my familys reasons aren't right. Worst part is, they care wayyy too much about what the society will say about all of this. Are they right in this? Honestly, I feel comfortable with this guy, I have a good feeling about our future together, I know i'll be happy with him. And plus, i trust this guy...i know for sure that he hasn't done anything wrong in the past, and i know he's not the type who would cheat or play around in the future. My mom however, tells me that if i marry this guy, since it'll be "love marriage", my marriage will without a doubt end up in a divorce, OR he'll definitely beat me and keep me very unhappy. Isn't this wrong to say?? Am i doing something wrong here by wanting to marry this guy? Please help me asap. If i am not doing nething wrong, what can i do or say to convince my parents that this isn't wrong?
I urgently need your help on this matter. I am a memon girl who is interested in an urdu-speaking guy. We are both 21 years old and want to get married as soon as possible. I know by reading the age, everyone will think, "that's too young"...right? Well, thats understandable, but we're both ready to get married and the thing is, my mom knows about him and is hoping that i get hooked up somewhere else. He has talked to his family about me and Inshallah they are planning to propose within this month. I told my mom about this but she said they wont say yes because he's not memon and he's young and hasnt finished his studies yet. I dont believe any of these things are important in an Islamic point of view...right? He's Mashallah a good guy, has a good job, and a great family Alhamdulillah. At the moment he is unable to do his studies because he is the one taking care of his whole family, and all the payments of the house, as they have jus recently shifted to the US. His family is ready to accept me into their family...but my familys reasons aren't right. Worst part is, they care wayyy too much about what the society will say about all of this. Are they right in this? Honestly, I feel comfortable with this guy, I have a good feeling about our future together, I know i'll be happy with him. And plus, i trust this guy...i know for sure that he hasn't done anything wrong in the past, and i know he's not the type who would cheat or play around in the future. My mom however, tells me that if i marry this guy, since it'll be "love marriage", my marriage will without a doubt end up in a divorce, OR he'll definitely beat me and keep me very unhappy. Isn't this wrong to say?? Am i doing something wrong here by wanting to marry this guy? Please help me asap. If i am not doing nething wrong, what can i do or say to convince my parents that this isn't wrong?