Post by muslima on Feb 23, 2006 9:09:35 GMT
I am Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
getting married despite it being against my wishes, I am trying to embrace this proposal as I believe Allah has led me to it, and it maybe good for my hereafter.
As I did not want to get married, i have trouble accepting it, so I tried to get involved in the organisation, meaning decoration (not the serious organisation, just minor things i enjoy doing) My family do not agree with this, they tell me I am being too modern and english for wanting this a certain colour, or to have printed napkins, they always say what will society think. But i find helping do these things is my way of accepting this and trying to be apart of it. Am I doing wrong by making these little choices, making it mine by wanting to add these little touches to my wedding day look??
They dont seem to understand, they only care what others may think or say, or having things teh way they want it. But i feel that if im trying and not doing anything indecent then isnt that a good thing. It would be nice to have my wedding look the way i id like it to look. That is the only thing I can do, I havent chose my partner, my parents forced me to see him and then I agreed as if i didnt im not sure what they would do, they may not speak to me again, also he seemed like a good person.
Im finding everythign gets on top of me, like not being able to decide anything and being so restricted with everything. I have told them, but my mum always tells me that i am different from her other children, i am not good, that i may not get her dua from her when i leave the house for marriage because she doesnt like me making these small choices.
I just want to know is it ok islamically for me to make these small irrelevant choices that I enjoy doing to make my wedding mine?
Thank you
Allah Hafiz
getting married despite it being against my wishes, I am trying to embrace this proposal as I believe Allah has led me to it, and it maybe good for my hereafter.
As I did not want to get married, i have trouble accepting it, so I tried to get involved in the organisation, meaning decoration (not the serious organisation, just minor things i enjoy doing) My family do not agree with this, they tell me I am being too modern and english for wanting this a certain colour, or to have printed napkins, they always say what will society think. But i find helping do these things is my way of accepting this and trying to be apart of it. Am I doing wrong by making these little choices, making it mine by wanting to add these little touches to my wedding day look??
They dont seem to understand, they only care what others may think or say, or having things teh way they want it. But i feel that if im trying and not doing anything indecent then isnt that a good thing. It would be nice to have my wedding look the way i id like it to look. That is the only thing I can do, I havent chose my partner, my parents forced me to see him and then I agreed as if i didnt im not sure what they would do, they may not speak to me again, also he seemed like a good person.
Im finding everythign gets on top of me, like not being able to decide anything and being so restricted with everything. I have told them, but my mum always tells me that i am different from her other children, i am not good, that i may not get her dua from her when i leave the house for marriage because she doesnt like me making these small choices.
I just want to know is it ok islamically for me to make these small irrelevant choices that I enjoy doing to make my wedding mine?
Thank you
Allah Hafiz