relation and duties towards parents and siblings

[Aneesa]

Assalamu Alaikum Imam I really need some advice oin this topic. See i am married but my husband dont really like or get along with my parents or other relatives . now my parents are in the country for a visit and i want to see them but i am scared to tell my husband because i dont want him to argue with me. can you please advice me what to do. My parents vacation is almost over.
i feel like visiting them without him knowing but i dont know if that is really the wise thing to do.
please answer soon.

Jazack Allah.

[Imam]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu


Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the Worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Most Beloved, and Final Messenger of Islam, Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam


Jazak'allah for your valued question. Your blessed parents are the ones who you should favour the most. The Qur'an al kareem says this in many parts. It states:

'Wa bil walidayni ihsanaw wa dhil qurba wal yatama wal masakini'


'And be kind to your parents, and close relations, orphans, and poor.' (al-Baqarah, 83)

This is the order of the Almighty Allah. We have to do what the Qur'an al kareem says, and not what the rest of the world does. If we are true Muslims, then regardless of foreseeing any breakages of worldly relationships, for example husband and wife, we must keep our parents happy. They come first.


They are the ones who brought you into being, clothed you, gave you shelter, fed you, educated you, gave you money, made you a relative of your relations, and hundreds of other things which are mentionable, yet you decay from them, for the sake of your husband.


I think you should see them, and explain your problem to them, if they ask you, and if they dont, then speak to them politely and with respect, so that they dont feel any remorse on your behalf. This is a duty that you must fulfill for Allah, and a duty which you owe to your parents, and one that you will be asked about on judgement day if you are not being fair and just to yourself.


May Allah the Almighty give us all the tawfiq to keep our parents happy, and to do as much good for them as we can, so that they dont have any complaints about us, when they leave us, when it will be too late. (Amin)


Wallahu A'lamu Biththawaab


M. Waseem Ashrafi