Married woman accusing me of liking her husband

[muslimgirl277]

Assalamu Alaikum,

I am a new user and this is the first time I am posting a question. I am going through a serious dilemma in my life and inshallah you can give me some Islamic advice on what to do. This is my dilemma:

I am a young, Pakistani Muslim girl residing in the United States. Three years ago my dad sponsored my aunt's family to come and live in the United States. When my relatives came to the U.S. one of my male cousins (Ahmad) expressed that he wanted to marry me. Six months ago his mom came to my parents and asked for my hand in marriage but my parents said no because he was not a suitable husband for me. Two days after my parents refused his proposal, Ahmad's mother got him married to a different cousin of mine (Nazia). Currently my cousin and his wife (Ahmad and Nazia) are living in the downstairs apartment of our building.

My problem begins from here: My cousin Nazia is behaving very cruelly and maliciously toward me. In the summer, our families went to pakistan for my sisters wedding and ahmad and nazia's wedding. When my family and I reached Pakistan, Nazia had made up lies about me and talked badly about me to all of our family members and all to all of the neighborhood families. It was the first time I went to pakistan after 16 years and it was unbearable for me because she insulted me there. I did not say anything to her because of our family and cousin relationship. However, for the past six months since we have come back to the U.S. Nazia is constantly doing my bastee (trying to insult and ridicule me). A few days ago she told everyone at college and all of my aunts and uncles that I am jealous of her because she married Ahmad and my parents refused his proposal. In addition, she is spreading rumors that I am trying to get them kicked out of the apartment building. I am very upset about this matter because Allah (swt) knows truly that I have never said anything to her, her family or even my parents about any of this. I have never told my parents that they should move out. I have been constantly making duaa to Allah (swt) to guide me and show me a sign of what I should do. Allah (swt) knows that I am not lieing about any of this.

My question is: How do I stop a married women from accusing me and lieing about me to all of my relatives and friends that I like her husband. Should I talk to her myself or should I remain quiet.

I know you must be thinking that this is a very weird situation, but if this wasn't so serious I would not be asking this website. My parents did not want me to marry my cousin, for my parents happiness I agreed with them and remained quiet. I have never said anything to anyone about this situation but I believe that Nazia is doing all of this to me because she knows that Ahmad (her husband) wanted to marry me and not her. However, they are married now and they show that they are very happy together. That is good for them, however, I do not think that it is correct/Islamic in any way for her to constantly lie and hurt me because I have never said anything to her since they got engaged. I do not know who I should turn to or what I should do, honestly I have never spoken to Ahmad since he has been engaged because I know Allah (swt) would disapprove of this. I am doing my best to remain a good muslim and do the right thing for Allah (swt)'s sake and for my parents reputation, but Nazia and her family are doing everything they can to ruin my reputation and hurt me what should I do because I am tired of her making lies about me and trying to ruin my reputation and my family's reputation even after she is married to my cousin.

Once again my question is: How do I stop a married women from accusing me and lieing about me to all of my relatives and friends that I like her husband. Should I talk to her myself or should I remain quiet. Another problem is I know that if I try to clear this problem with her then she will twist the story around infront of her family and my relatives and blame me all over again. I do not feel any justice in all of this. What should I do? Please help me with this dilema.

Shukran,
Waslaam

[Imam]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu


All Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the Worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Most Beloved, and Final Messenger of Islam, Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam

I am sorry to hear this situation that you are in, and make du'a to Allah the Almighty, that He prevents you from all kinds of false talk, and backbiting.

I would speak to your cousin and tell her that what she has been saying is not true. In addition, you should speak to her while she is alone, and not in front of her parents, or anyone else.

Alternatively, if you feel that if you spoke to her and it made matters worst, then you may remain quiet, and leave it in the hands of Allah the Almighty, because this situation that has occurred, has not occurred for the first time, but it occurs many times in the world. It happens almost everywhere, and many times. There are people with similar problems to yours, and by putting your trust in the Almighty Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, the truth always shows in the end.

Where you were the blameworthy one that had made no mistake, eventually, it will show that the fault was not yours, when the truth spills out. This happens when you yourself can practice and perform patience (sabr). It is stated in the Qur'an, that Allah the Almighty is with those who practice patience (sabr). It refers to times like these, and situations, which you are in. Furthermore, it is stated that the truth has come and falsehood has diminished, as it always had, in the times of the Prophet Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam, in the times of the Ennobled Companions, and in the times of the Great Personalities of Islam too.

So by practising sabr, and having hope in Allah the Almighty, Insha'allah, the Truth about the matter will one day emerge. All you need to do is to supplicate in front of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, that He keeps you away from the evils of the world, and keep praying your five times salah.

May Allah the Almighty protect us all from the trickery of the Satan.

Jazak'allah for your question.





Wallahu A'lamu Biththawaab


M. Waseem Ashrafi