wives rights

[henna]

Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

I am a practicing Muslim woman, and my husband does not practice Islam. He prefers me as I was before non religious.

I have read when a woman dies if her husband is displeased with her she goes to hell but what about if a woman is a good wife meets his needs but he is still displeased with her what happens to her?? and what about if the husband does not meet his duties to wards his wife and what is his and her status regarding heaven and hell??

I do not want to change myself i.e take off my hijaab etc as I am following shariah and Islamic law.

Please can you clarify as this is stressing me.

jazakalalh

Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

[Imam]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu



All Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Most Beloved and Final Messenger of Islam, Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam



Jazak'allah for your question. I am pleased that you stated that you are a practicing Muslim woman. What is displeasing, is the fact that you state that your husband prefers you as non-religious. Maybe he needs to learn about his religion as well as everyone else!


What you have read ''about a husband, if he's displeased with his wife, then she will go to hell'' - is true. However this only applies to that Muslim wife who disobeys Allah the Almighty, and His Most Beloved Messenger Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam, in the first instance. If she disobeys her husband, because the husband also disobeys Allah the Almighty, and His Beloved Messenger Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam, then although it is primarily the husbands duty to be a guide for her partner, she should nevertheless guide him. A hadith of the Bukhari Shareef states:

'La yu'minu ahadu kum hatta akuna ahabba ilayhi miwalidi hi wa waladi hi wannasi ajma'in'


'Non of you is a true believer until he loves me, more than his children and parents, and more than all the people, as a whole'.

There is no need to be worried about the fact that you are a good wife to your husband, and that he is still displeased with you. His displeasure may only be for his personal desires, and not for the sake of Allah the Almighty, and His Beloved Messenger Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam, as mentioned in the above hadith. At this stage, it is the woman who is on the straight, and is not liable to punishment as she has a duty to change the way her partner is.


If a partner does not meet his duties towards his wife, then on the day of judgement he will be judged for that. He will have to explain why was it, that he had deprived his wife/children of their rights. If he has a valid explanation, he will be freed from such a grasp, but if he does not, then he will be punished, according to the Will of Allah the Almighty. The woman however will not be asked, as she would have been the victim, although she maybe judged for other actions of hers which she had, throughout her life.


As far as you are practising, i.e.wearing your hijab and fulfilling all your other Islamic duties, I have to stress that it is not worth changing yourself, even for the better. The lifestyle of a Muslim is far more better in the long run, than all those who carry a lifestyle which is not Islamic. I urge that you continue to live, the way you do, and supplicate, that Allah the Almighty guides your husband along the Straight Path too.


May Allah forgive all our mistakes, and may He guide us in this life, and the hereafter. (Amin)



Wallahu A'lamu Biththawaab



M. Waseem Ashrafi