Post by slaveofallah on Apr 17, 2007 19:46:26 GMT
Assalam u Alaikum,
I am a muslim brother who has been talking to a sister for nearly a year. We both would inshAllah like to get married and have done istikhaarah which came back positive.
The thing is we do not want to fall into error and both think it is best to get married now in secret. We know that our parents will agree inshAllah with the marriage after a few years but by then we may have strayed by doing wrong sinful acts and committing zina of the mouth and so we think it is best to do it now.
We would like to know whether this secret nikkah would be a good option for us. Would it be appropriate to do istikaraah to see if this move is good for us. Or is this not necessary as the istikhaarah has already come back positive.
If this option be good for us would it be possible to do the nikkah over the phone as I am ill.
If all the above is acceptable, obviously our parents will not know about the whole secret nikkah but when the actual wedding does happen in a few years time would it be acceptable to do two nikkahs.
I look forward to your reply. JazakAllah.
Also i forgot to mention this part: the sister I intend to marry had a dream prior to us deciding this, this may be relevant.
She dreamt that we are both in bed together and we have the marriage certificates in our hands. And at first I am worried about my dad but then later i'm really happy as though I have made the right decision by doing the secret nikkah.
My sister walks into the room and puts a hijab on the sister I talk to head. And my sister tells her to look in the mirror to see whether she likes the way the hijab is put on her.
The sister notices in her dream my family and she notices a room with lots of books and the room is suddenly filled with lots of people and a man tells the sister to sit down.
The room is all white/cream with wooden beams.
I am a muslim brother who has been talking to a sister for nearly a year. We both would inshAllah like to get married and have done istikhaarah which came back positive.
The thing is we do not want to fall into error and both think it is best to get married now in secret. We know that our parents will agree inshAllah with the marriage after a few years but by then we may have strayed by doing wrong sinful acts and committing zina of the mouth and so we think it is best to do it now.
We would like to know whether this secret nikkah would be a good option for us. Would it be appropriate to do istikaraah to see if this move is good for us. Or is this not necessary as the istikhaarah has already come back positive.
If this option be good for us would it be possible to do the nikkah over the phone as I am ill.
If all the above is acceptable, obviously our parents will not know about the whole secret nikkah but when the actual wedding does happen in a few years time would it be acceptable to do two nikkahs.
I look forward to your reply. JazakAllah.
Also i forgot to mention this part: the sister I intend to marry had a dream prior to us deciding this, this may be relevant.
She dreamt that we are both in bed together and we have the marriage certificates in our hands. And at first I am worried about my dad but then later i'm really happy as though I have made the right decision by doing the secret nikkah.
My sister walks into the room and puts a hijab on the sister I talk to head. And my sister tells her to look in the mirror to see whether she likes the way the hijab is put on her.
The sister notices in her dream my family and she notices a room with lots of books and the room is suddenly filled with lots of people and a man tells the sister to sit down.
The room is all white/cream with wooden beams.
