consent for marriage

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Salaam ... What are the rules and regulations on marriage e.g. do the parents need to ask the consent of the child before arranging his or her marriage etc?

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[Imam]

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Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu


All Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the Worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Most Beloved, and Final Messenger of Islam, Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam


Jazak'allah for your question. It is necessary for the parents to ask the child whether he is happy in consenting to the person he or she is willing to marry. The reason for this statement is that sometimes marriages can end up in jeopardy, due to the married person not knowing who he/she is marrying, what their past was, or what kind of background they are from.


Equally though, it is necessary for the son/daughter to take the consent of the parents when he/she is willing to marry who he/she wants. For the sake of the marriage, the last thing that you want to do is to fall out with your parents, which is totally unacceptable in Islam.


Traditionally, it has been the practice of the majority of the Muslims to take consent or to make consent from the perspective of the child who is getting married, and from the parents who are willing to get the child married. In both cases, there has to be an agreement of acceptance from both parties. This is what makes the marriage a strong marriage, and not a weak one, which may turn to pieces, within a few months.



Wallahu A'lamu Biththawaab



M. Waseem Ashrafi



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