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Jun 27, 2007 17:14:25 GMT
Post by a husband on Jun 27, 2007 17:14:25 GMT
Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem
Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
I am a married man have very young kids I fullfill all my duties as a son and brother and try my best to keep them happy and do whatever they want but my family is unhappy with my wife, and they said me that ur wife is not good. Many times, they said me to leave ur wife or send her to her parents home.
All this made me such that i criticise in every thing what she do even if that is nice. I did not treat her properly rather i feel disgusting with her. and even honestly speaking, i did not talk her and i did not want to live with her because my parents and other family is not happy if i do good with her.
What is ur opinion? keeping in view that if i leave her and kids, i can get again by another marriage any time but if my family is not happy and my parents died in this situation, i can never get them again.
My brother says leave ur family and spend all ur income to parents otherwise u cant save anything
I know it is not good but i just want to make my parents and other family happy
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Jul 14, 2007 20:08:32 GMT
Post by Imam on Jul 14, 2007 20:08:32 GMT
Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa BarakatuhuAll Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the Worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Most Beloved, and Final Messenger of Islam, Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam Although you have duties as a Muslim towards your brothers, sisters, and parents, nevertheless, you have to provide your wife with her rights also, equally. You should never deprive anyone of their rights, particularly those that have been prescribed by Allah the Almighty and His Beloved Messenger Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam. It is not enough to say that you will divorce your wife, or deprive her of her rights, simply because your parents have a disliking towards her, or they have a disliking towards your inlaws. The worst thing that can occur in the eyes of Allah the Almighty is the divorce. Therfore you must remain firm in holding on to the sunnah of the Beloved Messenger Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam. It is not your fault that your parents have differences with your inlaws, they should have realised that before they gave your hand in marriage to you. You must remain patient, firm, strong, undoubtful, and deffinite of the fact that you are married, and also of the fact that you are fulfilling every right of your wife, which needs to be fulfilled. As for what your parents say, then rumours and mishaps have occurred, and will occur even when you are dead. You should be ready to deal with them, by getting it into one ear, and taking it out of the other, and not really responding to your parents desires. This is your right and your decision as to what you should do. Not theirs. Jazak'allah for your question. Wallahu A'lamu BiththawaabM. Waseem Ashrafi
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