should we be married or not??

[zaaraahmad]

as-lam o alaikum....
i will try to make this short but it is very complicated situation and i am hoping you can give me a good answer from islamic point of view. I will start by telling you i am converted to islam from past 4 yrs. I first converted for my husband and now i am taking islam in my heart for myself and my daughter. I was married with muslim 4 yrs ago without parents consent on his part and after short marriage his family made him come home and because was no paper work on marriage it has been forgot. so after this i became pregnant by him and now have daughter 2 yrs old now. I am very confused about what is the right thing to do. I don't want him to hurt his family by being with us but i am scared for my daughter what kind of life she will live like this. If you can please tell me what is the right thing to do in this situation it will give me much peace..... thanks Allah Hafiz

[Imam]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu


All Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the Worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Most Beloved, and Final Messenger of Islam, Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam

What you need to do is to explain to your husband, that you did have nikah done Islamically, and even if you did not have it declared to the authorities, that your rights as a wife, and your daughters rights still exist.

He should try to fulfill your rights as a wife, by looking after you, and your daughter, your right is one right that he has, and your daughters right is another.

He is the one who should provide for you financially, make sure that there is food for you and your daughter, and a roof over your heads by mean of shelter. In addition to this he should provide for your clothing and take care of you, as a husband would towards his wife.

If you had the nikah done Islamically, you should get in contact with him, and tell him that our marriage still exists. That is a starting point. Your intention is not a divorce, as these are the worst things in the eyes of Allah the Almighty.

However, you MUST get in contact with him, and tell him that you are still his wife, and he still has a daughter to look after, otherwise he will be both punishable in this life and the next, for neglecting your rights which Allah the Almighty has bestowed upon him.

In addition you could get the paper work for the marriage which you may need, so that it at least shows that both you, and your partner are married.

Please do not hesitate to post more questions, as we are here to help.

All I can do at this moment is pray that Allah the Almighty will give guidance to your husband, and make room in his heart for both you, and your daughter.

May Allah keep us all away from the evils of this world, and may He give us all His everlasting protection from such evils. (Amin).


Jazak'allah for your question.





Wallahu A'lamu Biththawaab


M. Waseem Ashrafi