istikhara and marriage

[muslimah786]

Salaams, i am severly distressed, i have been with a guy for three years, i understand that we have done it the wrong way. The guy has told his mum about me i dont think she was pleased, however she told someone from pakistan to do the istikhara. Meanwhile i had done istikhara, on the first night when i woke up i thought 'no, it needs to be sorted with th families first'
i didnt quiet understand that so after fajr namaaz i decided to ask alllah to show me a sign in the dream as i didnt understand the feeling.
In my dream i was in his car and he kissed me on the hand.
The next day i thought id do it again as i wanted to be sure.
On awaking i felt a firm yes.
The istikhara done by someone in pakistan came out as a yes n a no, so they did it again and it was a no.
I am totaly distressed as we both want to be with each other and his mum is telling him to forget me and move on.
What can we do in this situation?
can an imam please reply

[Imam]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu


All Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the Worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Most Beloved, and Final Messenger of Islam, Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam


Try Istikhara-e-Ghawthiyyah, which I have already mentioned in the Archives section. It shows you the method, and everything else. This is the direct link.


Jazak'allah for your question.


Wallahu A'lamu Biththawaab


M. Waseem Ashrafi

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Reason for Editing: Edited to provide link

[muslimah786]

but my istikhara was positive, as weve done it the wrong way any way, isnt it better if we just get married

[muslimah786]

can i have a reply asap plz jazakallah

[Imam]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu


All Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the Worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Most Beloved, and Final Messenger of Islam, Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam

Istikhara will just guide you whether to do an act or not. The final decision is yours. With the consent of especially your parents, then to safegard yourself from sin, you must get married, as long as there are no dicrepancies on your husbands side, and he agrees.


Jazak'allah for your question.





Wallahu A'lamu Biththawaab


M. Waseem Ashrafi