sexual abuse by father

[momina123]

i was abused as a child by my father, he abused me three years ago when i was 25, they are not getting me married.
im helpless in this situation, advice me about what rights i have and what are still my obligations.

[Imam]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu


All Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the Worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Most Beloved, and Final Messenger of Islam, Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam


I am sorry to hear the situation you are in. If you say that you were abused by your father in a sexual way, then it is better for you to leave him, and not to be in contact with him, as being in contact with him, and not leaving him, may incite him to commit further abuse on you.


Committing such an abuse in Islam is forbidden, and there are many prohibitions relating to this, in the Qur'an. Not only is it one of the ways of the days of ignorance (jahiliyyah), but prior to that even, when the nations of other prophets were tormented for carrying out such acts.


The only real way to free oneself from such abuse is to sincerely ask for repentance from the Almighty. Seeing that He is the All Forgiving, and the most Merciful, if you have made enough effort to ask him for forgiveness, then He will be merciful towards you.


If you feel that you have the need of getting married, then you should be free to make your own choice, as long as the groom, and the marriage are Islamic. If however this is not just an excuse for you to marry whomever you wish, then you will be liable for this, not only in this world, but also the hereafter.


You do not need to report everything explicitly that has happened to you to an Islamic leader, or Imam, or shaykh, but a brief explanation of your circumstances should suffice for you to go ahead with the marriage ceremony, once you have chosen your partner.


May Allah the Almighty, free us all from the torments of the dunya, and may He adhere us to stay firm upon the sunna of the Beloved Messenger of Allah Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam, and may He keep us in the shadow of the Ennobled Qur'an.



Jazak'allah for your question.



Wallahu A'lamu Biththawaab



M. Waseem Ashrafi

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