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Post by Turabi1 on Oct 24, 2007 3:24:47 GMT
My husband and I have been married for only a couple of months we have a few issues we are having trouble getting past I am angry with him alot of the time. Just when I start to get past things that have happened he repeats some of the things he knows hurts me. He looks at other women a lot when were out. I understand a glance he is human. Am I wrong for being upset when he cant stop looking or he looks once then looks again then looks away then looks back again or his head turns so he can follow her. Another lady actually noticed in a store the other day I was so embarrassed I would never be so disrespectful to my husband. He says theres nothing wrong with what hes doing that I make myself mad and upset. Am I wrong should I not feel this way when were out together and he does this? How do I get him to understand it hurts me its how it makes me feel, without him dismissing my feelings?
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Post by Imam on Nov 4, 2007 15:08:08 GMT
Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa BarakatuhuAll Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the Worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Most Beloved, and Final Messenger of Islam, Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam You are quiete correct in telling him that he is wrong. You should tell him that when he is out, the least he should do is not look at other women while you are there, especially if he is looking at them with the wrong intention. If he sees that he cannot help it, you should try and tell him that he is committing the zina of the eyes, and that in the hereafter his eyes will be punished for looking at them. You should also tell him that he should recite 'La hawla wa la quwwata illa billahil 'aliyil 'azim'If he cant help it. Try to make him understand that the Muslim must have modesty, and that the eyes should always remain humble when it comes to looking at other women. Every body part has a correct and wrong usage. The correct usage of the eyes is to see that Qur'an, see the Ka'bah, to see the Rawdah of the Beloved Prophet Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam, and to see the mother father, and your shaykh and teachers. The wrong use of the eyes is to look at other women distastefully, to look at bad books, to watch bad films, and to look aty other obscene things. I hope that the little advice I have given you is enough for you to explain to him, what is right and what is wrong. Jazak'allah for your question. Wallahu A'lamu BiththawaabM. Waseem Ashrafi
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