Marriage decision!

[BlindHope]

Aslam-o-Alikum,

I am 22 years old and doing my bachelors in business. Our family is well financially stable and living in canada. The problem i have is about my marriage, i am getting so many proposals from pakistan and my mom wants me to okey one of those. All of those are from families who are in need of financial support. The guys either dont have a job in first place or have a part time job.

I dont want to marry anyone from back home. i told my mom about it and she thinks i am not making any sense. I told her i would marry anyone from here (canada) but not from pakistan, cuz almost all the guys who propose a girl living abroad is due to they want to move out of Pakistan. I cant stand this thing cuz i believe marriage shouldn't base on these things. Whats bothering me is that he is using me for his means.

My mom is worried because of me, i am 22, and i have two younger sisters who are also close to marriage age. Mom did nikah of one of my younger sister because of me. It hurts me more to see her like this worried.

I dont know how to compromise on something like this. if i do agree to what my mom wants i'll be stuck with it for rest of my life. Its a decision for my whole life. No one in the family is trying to understand me.

Please please do help me, tell me a wazifa for my situation so i can get a proposal from a decent family who is settled here in canada.

Jazakallah
Salam
Worried Daughter!

[Imam]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu


All Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the Worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Most Beloved, and Final Messenger of Islam, Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam

I am saddened to hear your view, which is correct, in relation to marriage abroad. Because you are in this situation, you know best what is right for you, and maybe it is not possible for your parents to realise this. However, one important point that I do wish to make is that your parents conscent, for your marriage, is vital. This is regardless of whether it is from abroad, or whether it is from Canada.

For a more prosperous and successful approach, please recite the following wazifah as much as possible, before salah, after salah, and in between, as many times possible:

'La ilaha illa anta subhana ka inni kuntu minaz zalimin'

This is known as the 'ayah-e-karimah', and is very useful for things which do not normally happen, to happen. It has other numerous benefits as well.

May Allah the Almighty ordain for us, that, which is beneficial to us, and may He prevent us from the evils of this world, and the Hereafter. (Amin).


Jazak'allah for your question.





Wallahu A'lamu Biththawaab


M. Waseem Ashrafi