Wahabi kafir ?

[sunni slave]

Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

Can we call wahabis kafir if they insult the Ahle Sunnat wal Jamaat scholars ?

[Imam]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu


Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the Worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Last Messenger (Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam)


Jazak'Allah for your question sister, and I am sorry for taking so long in responding to your query. I actually read your post, and was wondering whether I should answer your question, or just give you advice. As far as advice is concerned, then I have to tell you that your brother needs to be told, that he is not the one who should go out, and 'like', a girl, so that he can get married to her, but like you mentioned before, it pleases your mum that if you find someone for your brother, she will be pleased.


Since your brother now tells your mum everything, she now knows that it isnt you sisters who have found someone for him, but it is he, who has found someone for himself. This is another truth that has emerged. Your brother shouldnt even tell his mum everything, as telling everything can sometimes constitute a weakness, as some things may be told, that can lead one into trouble. Where marriage is concerned, then trouble is the last thing that anyone wants.


I think your brother should stop seeing this girl for his own benefit, because it is a sin to see someone you dont know, even though he may marry her in future. It is contrary to the way of Islam as a whole, and would be unacceptable, in a Muslim society. Your brother should also take heed from the person he wants to marry, as she doesnt tell her mother everything, so why is it that he tells his mum everything? I think the sisters should become more involved, as females should speak to females, and males to males, especially when there is so much 'talk' going around.


Personally, if both parents are happy, I would never get involved in 'brewing things any further', as this may lead to more loss, than gain. Then again, it is up to those people, i.e. the sisters who are closer to the brother, to tell him, that some form of constraint must be placed on his words.


I hope that there are no more 'unislamic' meetings taking place, and that 'brother' can control himself in what he says to mum. I hope that the sisters do take a lead in making what is good for both these people, not only for now, but for the future, and let us all pray that there are no more misconceptions about anybody.


Jazak'Allah


M. Waseem Ashrafi