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Post by bluesky on Nov 2, 2005 17:42:02 GMT
Asalumu Alaikum. is it wrong to pray to allah to marry a certain person in particular, like asking him for "so and so". I has asked Allah to send me the next man that i'll marry, and praise be to him he has. i wanted to do a special prayer so that we will marry since we are not married yet and i'm afraid that his parents will look for another person for him. is there a special prayer that i can do? Shukran
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Post by Imam on Nov 4, 2005 0:33:54 GMT
Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem,
Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu,
Praise be to Allah the Lord of the Worlds, and endless blessings be upon His Messenger, the Last Prophet (Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam).
As far as marriage is concerned, it is a good intention. It saves you from committing sin. However, your parents should know what your desire is, and his parents should also know what the desire of their son is. Parents have always been there to fulfil the requirements of their sons and daughters.
What Islam disallows, is for a Muslim boy to see a Muslim girl, or a girl to see a boy, when the parents are ignorant of it. If you are so close, that you want to get married to each other, then you should at least get your parents involved.
It is your life that you are going to live, and your legitimate children that you are going to have. The worst thing that can happen is for them to say no, which of course will be in your interest. Afterall, how do you know that Allah the Almighty will not bring the right person into your life again?
I think, before you start seeing each other anymore, you should at least tell your mum, as mums understand more than what the fathers tend to understand. The boy should do the same. However, do not see each other until the matter progresses.
Try performing istikhara. This is done by performing a two cycle prayer afterwhich you invoke to Allah the Almighty, whether you want to do something or not. The results should be in front of you in either a dream, or after a while, or while you are performing istikhara, depending on which method you choose.
Another way is to perform your five times salah regularly for the rest of your life, and tell the certain person to do the same. It is a duty of every Muslim to perform five times salah, as it cures desease, increases health, advises you of what is right, and what is wrong, and makes a good character out of you. Similarly, it erases sin, increases your station with Allah the Almighty, and gives you reward, along with much much more.
A du'a that you may recite in addition to this, is:
'Ya hayyu ya qayyumu bi rahmati ka astaghith'
'Oh living One, Oh One who is always present, I am in anticipation of your Mercy.'
This supplication (du'a'), is mostly read when you do not know what to do, or are confused, or depressed. But remember, never give up your five times salah, and make a promise to yourself, that you will always offer this to Allah the Almighty, in thanks.
May Allah the Almighty, give us all guidance, in finding out what is right, and turning our backs to what is evil. (Amin).
Wallahu Alamu Biththawaab.
M. Waseem Ashrafi.
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