Feeling scared

[Sister Nomee]

Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

My 8 year old son all of a sudden feels scared. he previously used to sleep in his own bedroon now refuses to do so. Even going upstairs during the day i.e to go to the toilet he has to take his younger brother with him. he will not stay alone in any of the room. I do tend to read four quls and ayut kursi over him at night.

Please let me know of any other waziefs or duas that I can do.

jazakallah khair

[Imam]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu



Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the Worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Most Beloved, and Final Messenger of Islam, Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa (Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam)


Jazak'allah for your question and congratulations in your succession as the Moderator of the Month, April & May 2006. May Allah the Almighty help you, to do all you can in such a good cause. (Amin)


In relation to your question regarding your son, then it is quiet normal for children at that age, to become scared, or to sleep with their mother, and not on their own, or not go to the toilet alone. Afterall, Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta'ala) is our Helper and Guide.


What you need to focus on, is the ability of your son, to learn all the attestations of faith (the six kalimahs) off by heart, so that whenever he does feel scared, he can start to recite them, especially the latter part of the third kalimah.


It is an important part of the hadith, in the Bukhari Sharif, which is the second greatest book after the Qur'an al kareem, which states that a person should recite:

'Wa la hawla wa la quwwata illa billahil 'aliyil 'azim'

He should recite as many times as possible during the day, but it isn't limited to just small children. It has many advantages, and benefits, which are good for this world, and the Hereafter, especially if it has come from the ennobled mouth, of the Most Beloved Messenger of Allah (Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam).


Furthermore, try and make him learn his salaah. This will keep him in a state closer to Allah the Almighty, and in a state of recieving constant reward, once he starts to pray, and wait for the next salaah, and so on.


Make him learn the necessary du'as for example, the du'a for going to the toilet, the du'a for eating, and after eating, the du'a for going to sleep, and waking up. Once he is in a constant state of learning, reciting, he will be mentally quicker, more intelligent, he will not feel as scared, and will be gaining reward all the time, and most important of all, will be being trained for his future life, which he will need for the rest of his life.


What I have stated may be limited, but it is a mountain of gold. If you act upon this, your worldly life shall become your paradise, and for those who will come after you, and your eternal life shall also be good. If there are any other problems you encounter, then do not hesitate to ask me, as I am always here to help, although time, maybe a factor that concerns me.


Please make du'a that Allah the Almighty keep all our children safe, from the evils of the world and the hereafter, and that He guides them according to His Will.




Wallahu A'lamu Biththawaab



M. Waseem Ashrafi