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Post by amar on Jan 6, 2008 21:45:04 GMT
Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
i hav a few problems in regards to education. im in university at d moment and im having truble keepin on trak, im slackin off alot .my parents hv high expections of me since my elder brothers didnt go uni. they wnat me to get a degree and i dont wana disapoint them
im practisin aswell and i feel that im directin all my attention towards religion, not leaving any time for edcuation. das d reason y im slackin off. i cant seem to balance it out between the two. im more compelled to religion. before my state of mind was lyk thers no need to work so hard for this world n that workin so hard to get a degree is a waste of tym, but then i c n meet ppl who are practisin and also have degrees. that motivates me for a short while, but then i start slackin off again and become totally absorbed in relgion, if what im doin is wrong den plz tell me
i feel that if i start studying i wont have any tym for takin part in religios activities and that i wont have any tym left 4 devotional practices, and gradually i will start losing interest in religion, das what im afraid of. im just not interested, i can never find a course which interests me, last year i was doin law but then i changed to computer science
if thers any dua or anythin which u can give me, or some advice that wud b greatly appreciated. Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
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Post by Kiwi Bro on Jan 7, 2008 3:51:23 GMT
Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem
Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
Brother Amar,
It’s great that you’re at Uni. And it’s also natural for your parents to have high expectations of you, as any parent would want their child to excel academically, or be it anything.
It’s also great that you’re compelled towards religion, but if you’ve planned to study at Uni, you’ve got to make time for that as well. I’ve heard that “Deen and Duniya” go hand in hand, people that have achieved academically (duniya) but also keep practicing their religion (deen).
I’ve just recently got out of Uni, so I can sort of relate to what you’re going through.
“i feel that if i start studying i wont have any tym for takin part in religios activities and that i wont have any tym left 4 devotional practices, and gradually i will start losing interest in religion, das what im afraid of.” Brother, from your above statement, it seems like that you’re into your education and want to pursue it, being occasionally inspired by “ppl who are practisin and also have degrees.”. You can have both, education and devotion to religion, but like with everything, there's a hard part. In this case, being a good planner and organising your time well so that you can get the best of both worlds.
I’ve heard that if you want to become like someone, surround yourself with that person. Why don’t you spend more time with “ppl who are practisin and also have degrees”? That way, it’ll be a more frequent motivation for you. As far as Deen goes, that’s equally as important, if not more important. Maybe you can set up some sort of a timetable? I am not too sure what your study/work load is like, but maybe you can do all your assignments/ readings/workshops/tutorials in the weekdays, thus leaving your entire weekends free for religion.
One thing I’ve learnt from 4 years of Uni is that you have to plan. Keep a diary, a personal planner, and trust me as silly as it sounds, it helps. Keep a task planner in your room, and that way, you can see what assignment is due when, what religious event is when and where, and that way you can allocate time effectively and efficiently.
I used to plan my lecture times/workshops around prayer times, so that I could get both. Finding a balance is needed, for anything to be honest. I find balancing work and personal life hard, but hey, it's got to be done.
As far as choosing your course goes, that’s entirely up-to you to choose. It’s okay to change to something else, but it is not advised. The reason being, if you’re a 3rd yr law student, then you change to Computer Science, you’ve sort of lost your 3 yrs of law, as both are totally different field and do not compliment each other. But then again, if you do need to change it, then by all means go for it.
You said you did law, and from that, I gather that you’re a pretty smart chap, as law is competitive and hard to get into. It’s easy to loose track and motivation, but being persistent and consistent pays off in the end.
Maybe you could talk to a careers counsellor, or someone you’re close to, analyse what your strengths and weaknesses are academically, then choose a course. For example, I was very good at Maths, but I did not pursue it at Uni, because I knew I’d have to do a Master/Doctorate Degree to get a job. So I compromised and did a double major in Accounting and Finance, and now I am working as an Accountant. It’s number crunching, but hey, pays the bills.
You've got an opportunity to study, and my advise is go out and grab that opportunity with both hands. Look at it from this point of view, for example if you're a successful lawyer, how proud would that make your parents? Not just that, but if you, for example, provided your legal services to someone in need who doesn't have finance, I think that can be considered a "Sadqah". Or if you're a computer dude, maybe you can design/host more forums like islam786.org and spread "deen".
One thing I've learnt is that no one can ever take your knowledge away from you. The more knowledgable you are, the better decision you will make and be in a better position to help yourself and others.
This is my practical advice from one student to another, based on my experience.
Hope my little advise help.
As far as dua goes, please wait for the response from Imaam Sahib as he is the best person for that, and he can advise you better as well.
Hope that you find your true calling, and make dua that you excel in your studies and everything else. Ameen
Jazzak Allah Khairan.
Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
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Post by amar on Jan 9, 2008 22:39:02 GMT
thanks 4 d advice kiwi, appreciate it . im always around practisin muslims in uni, ther all mostly in ther 3rd years, but stil 4 sum reason i js dnt hav d motivation to get me fru uni. i dnt knw what it is, mayb i want it all on a plate lol stil mayb d imam has a dua or sumtin up his sleev4me, thanks agen
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Post by Kiwi Bro on Jan 10, 2008 3:18:28 GMT
Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem
Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
You're welcome Brother Amar.
Like I said before, as far as dua goes, please wait for the response from Imaam Sahib as he is the best person for that, and he can advise you better as well.
Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
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Post by Imam on Feb 6, 2008 10:12:03 GMT
Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa BarakatuhuAll Praise be to Allah who is the Lord of the Worlds, and may Endless Blessings be showered upon His Most Beloved, and Final Messenger of Islam, Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa 'aalihi wa Sallam Jazak'allah for your question. Brother Ammar, I am so proud that you are both religious, and have the opportunity to study at uni as well. That is the best of both worlds, granted to you, at an age like yours, by Allah the Almighty. As long as you are performing your five times salah, and adhering to most sunnahs of the Beloved Messenger of Allah Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam, that makes you religious enough, but it still does'nt mean that you can slack off learning for the sake of Allah the Almighty. Just remember, that education is a ne'mah, and is fard, upon every man and woman who is a Muslim, and there is also a great need for itespecially in this country. This country needs representatives of Islam, like yourself to uphold the banner of Islam. Whether that is in the political field, legal field, religious field, or any other educational field, it still desperately needs you in succession, otherwise you will be classed as another statistic, without any recognition. What you need to do is to recite plenty of durud sharif (at least 100 every day), and with that recite 'Rabbi zidni ilmann'. (At least 100 times a day), and Insha'Allah, because this wazifah is from the Qur'an, Allah the Almighty will help you acquire the knowledge which you have intended for. It is very powerful. Stick to it sincerily until you complete what you intended your task for. Keep to the study of law, as this is a crucial subject which effects the lives of Muslims in most parts of the world. Try to become a spokesman in your seminars, and gain recognition, bearing in mind the fact that there are millions of oppressed Muslims all around the world, and ask, what is it, that the legal system is doing to prevent this. With such intentions in mind, Allah the Almighty will help you as He is the Ultimate Guide, and Insha'Allah, by the Will of the Almighty, He will see you through your affair. May Allah the Almighty give us all the tawfiq to become educated for His Pleasure and sake, and may He keep us all away from those who are neglectful, lazy, and useless. (Amin). Wallahu A'lamu BiththawaabM. Waseem Ashrafi
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